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You can never pick wrong when you pick you first

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Contrary to popular beliefs, Relationship is a business transaction between two or more partners as the case may be

But I'm focusing on the relationship between two partners today

No matter how much we try to sugarcoat or sweet tongue it

We want what we want, and so we will always go for what's best for us

I've never seen a woman date or marry a man just because he is poor and lonely and she wants to help him out 

Nor a man marry a woman just so he can help and change her life out of the kindness of his heart

Marriage is a selfish plan with a selfless goal

We are all in it for what we can get out of it.

And like all business transactions,  we want what's best for us first and most importantly. 

We are in it to satisfy our own needs and promote our personal interests

It's like going to the supermarket or the Mall, you have a list of what you want and you ensure you get everything on the list, you even get extra as it catches your fancy, though it wasn't originally on the list.

Same with going to buy a house, you won't buy an uncompleted building or a dilapidated one if you have the money to afford a finished one.

You won't buy used or damaged goods or property just for the fun of renovating or fixing it, hell, you won't open your eyes and buy spoilt products or substandard goods.

You will go for the best quality and standard

Right? 

So why settle for less when you wanna date or get married?

Why date a damaged partner 

An egomaniac or abuser 

Why marry a toxic man or woman 

Why be with a control freak or manulipulative preeq

The same man that is asking you to dress in a way that massages his ego and fondles his insecurity complex, has refused to stop smoking after you complained and asked him to.

He can't sacrifice for you and for love and quit smoking to save his life and yours after you pleaded,  but he expects you to start wearing deeper life gowns and reduce the make up on your face 

Every decision he makes is primarily aimed at making him feel better at your expense 

Your opinion or feelings doesn't count even though it's your private and personal business 

That is not the right business for you!

Change partner

So long as your interests are being protected and your sanity guarded in the relationship, then it is the right partnership for you.

Any other deal is a bad deal

There are no bad relationships/marriages, only bad choices 

Choose you first, you can never pick wrong when you pick you first. 


Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne 

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