Be the Unbored

Why are people bored or rather boring?

I've read a lot of interesting posts from both guys and ladies

The men feel women are too laid back and conservative when it comes to having a decent and engaging conversation 

Like a bad sex... Where the lady just spreads and stay still like a log of wood, leaving Oga to do all the hard work.

Ladies are always of the opinion that most guys just want to ask for their nudes or ask them out, so they rather not reply or put up a lot of impossible conditions to maze through to pique their interest

Have you noticed that there are some people in your friend list you have never said "Hi" to,  they don't even like or comment on your post...One day they say "Hi" and you notice them,  and few chats later you are like... Where have you been all my years on Facebook? 

OK I've seen something like, "Plz dont come to my inbox and chat me with Hi, how are you doing,  where are you chatting from or wassup, have you eaten, can I see your picture?"

I don't know but, I don't see anything wrong with beginning a conversation like that, except the person says "Can I see your picture" or "What's your name?"

(That's the worst) 

You have my blessing to ignore!

The truth is, there's no textbook conversation starter kit that works for everyone. 

If you are too serious go to LinkedIn, that's where your mates are 

But if you are on Facebook or Instagram, please loseen up a little and unsqueeze your face.

Some people's facial reaction when someone says "Hi" to them is like that of an alomo bitter drinker 

Someone even said after Hi, state your business with the Hi and bla bla bla.. Plz calm down,  there's nothing wrong with a first Hi, a follow up will come after you reply with "Hello."

Imagine if I come to your inbox and say something like... "Hello, can you give me your two cent on climate change?" or "What's your honest opine about the relationship between 5G and Coronavirus and the religious implications?" 

Now, I'm not saying you must reply every "Hi," you will run mad because some people are not even worth accepting their request...I've written an article about this...stay your lane and chat with your class.

Back to business... 

When women are talking about how boring their chats are, or friends are, most times it's the guys they are referring to... Never other women 

Women hardly chat other women, men too... So, when any gender complains that their friends are boring they always mean the opposite sex, yet they will hardly chat with their own gender. 

Right now,  online communication is essential duty or function in this present corona era 

Now, more than ever, with social distancing and self isolation being the order of the day, online networking and social connection is as important as oxygen and water 

Human beings are social creatures 

We love to talk and hear ourselves 

We can't do without being seen or heard

Lock us up, but never take away our freedom to communicate 

You can isolate us but don't muzzle us!

A larger percentage of women claim they prefer being friends with men, but this same ratio also complain that they hate chatting with men because of their ridiculous and lewd chats 

Men, on the other hand say it's their frivolous demands and low IQ

Someone even said she doesn't chat, she only comes online to view status and upload pictures... 

The truth is, to catch a fish, you use the right trap, earthworm 

You won't catch a fish with fried meat or chicken at the end of the hook, no matter how expensive or delicious it is

But a slimy earthworm will do the trick 

To get the right person or dialogue, you must dangle the right content 

You can't flash boob's and ass from January to December,  you can't twerk and be nude alllll the time and expect nothing less than "Baby can I see your nude"...or "Wow,  I am so hard here,  see my penis..."

You can't always post stuffs that are always about sex, sexiness or sexual related material and expect to have a certain kind of man or conversations in your inbox. 

Finally, in most cases, the people complaining about being bored are boring themselves 

They are the "Yes," "No," "Okay" kind!

If you don't know how to chat, you are dumb 

No two ways about it 

I'm not talking about not wanting to chat... There's a difference.

Don't say I'm a phone  or call person 

That's so lame 

It means you lack creativity and an active imagination. 

Communication is an art, and social media has made us all artists

You just have to refine your art by being Knowlegeable. 

You have no business online if you can't speak the language.

So if you are always asking... "What should I say naa?..."

"I don't have anything to say," or "I don't know how to chat..." well,  this is the answer right here:

Increase your knowledge base and have more topics to pull conversations from

The more things you know, the more creative you can be with your communication. 

By learning and studying more, you become a more powerful force to listen to, and be heard. 

It's that siMple!

It's not science... It's art and we are all artists.

Social media has defend that for us,  quit the self denial and defensiveness you always throw back for lack of any meaningful thing to say. 

Just read and learn more of the trending and important topics around you. 

Now you can turn those boring chats and conversations into interesting patterns that only serious minded partners, looking for what you are looking for too can connect and relate with...

This does not apply to "Thank you angle for your acceptance or Thanks be to God for acceptance of my request." Those ones are hopeless, block them!

The Authorpreneur 

www.ofunneceo.blogspot.com