The other day at work, I was in a mad rush to deliver my expected deliverables and send a report, I mistakenly pressed the wrong button on my laptop which resulted to an annoying icon popping up and then I realized each time I hit the space bar, a dot instead of a space appeared between every word I typed.
I was running late already and had already gone passed the critical stage, so I was in no mood to be frustrated by this minor setback, so rather than tackle it, I closed my laptop, instead of figuring out the problem or asking for help. I took the easy way out.
I shut down and closed for the day, believing that my problem will go away with the night.
Oh, how wrong I was in the morning, I opened my laptop, switched it on, totally oblivious of the events the night before, and viola…the annoying icon popped up again with the same dots each time I clicked the spaced bar.
This is how most of us live life today.
We create a problem by ourselves, and instead of trying hard to figure out the solution, we run away expecting the problems to disappear like the wind.
But life doesn’t work that way, whatever you don’t address now will still be waiting for you to come back.
It could be a domestic abuse from an abusive relationship, if you go to bed at night, you will wake up and face the same abuse over and over again because you have refused to address it squarely with the right action or the right people.
It could also be a toxic relationship or a one sided friendship too, you are too blind to see or maybe too lost in the illusion you created to ask and get genuine feedback concerning your fix.
Other times, it could be a simple hey, or hello are you okay….are you good?
But we don’t even try, maybe because of ego, pride, anger or in my case, fatigue and irritation.
A usually cheerful friend suddenly starts acting different and instead of you to ask him/her what the problem is, you assume nonchalance and ignores them, expecting them to bounce back to their usual state of mind, whereas you could be the kick they need to bounce back.
Meanwhile, what that person needed was a "hey" or "hello, are you alright?" not necessarily from you but it will do a lot of good if it came from you considering they would do just that if you were in their shoes, and so that person feels so hurt by your lack of concern and care in their low point, and then the indifference is now directed at you.
It took my laptop to remind me about facing my problems, especially the one I started and not letting go until I fully understood what I needed to do to move on.
I just turned to my colleague, our IT specialist and explained to him, he simply laughed and pointed out where I activated the icon and all I did was one simple click, and viola…Problem solved, just like that.
All along, the solution was right in my face but I was too irritated to calm down and face it, I took the easy way out, running away and forgetting what I started.
Well, it was still there in the morning waiting to spite my face, until I changed things for it.
Most times the solution is always right in front of our faces if only we bend down to look closely.
Or ask the right person for help.
Happiness is not free, you have to work for it and the good news is, everyone can afford it if only you put in the amount of work it costs.
But the action needs to come from you, don't wait for someone else to bring it to you, else you might be waiting for a very long time.
Happiness isn't free until you pay the iron price.
Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne
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www.ofunneceo.blogspot.com
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