Marriage or Stoneage

I came across the story of a woman whose fiancé changed his mind on the day of their wedding.

The caption stopped me first.

Then disgusted me next.

I couldn't stomach reading the full story.

I would have puked.

It said...''Woman kneels and begs in her wedding gown, as fiancé changes his mind on wedding day.''

I'm sure the blogger was laughing, chewing popcorn and drinking Zobo while writing that.

The following dialogue was impossible to miss, I can't remember the exact words the blogger used but I think it went thus...

The woman made a mistake or so and so the man decided he didn't wanna get married again on the wedding day fully clothed in their wedding gown and suit, and aunty was kneeling, begging and crying to uncle to forgive and marry her in the presence of her friends, family, enemies and God.

My question and bafflement in all of this is, so after kneeling in public, begging, staining your white gown, uncle now finally says ''Ok, I forgive you, let's marry...'' You will stand up, dust your gown, clean your eyes, smile, probably kneel down one more time, thank God, stand up again and walk down the aisle with him, feeling grateful, blessed or lucky???

Jesus!!!

I don't think the average Nigerian woman is human.

I know the average Nigerian man is inhuman.

But the average Nigerian woman is stupidman or foolhuman.

The average Nigerian human is slowly losing her humanity to stupidity.

Imagine how that marriage will be!!!

I ask...is it a marriage or the stone age?

Your self-worth will be as costly as a wasted semen to the man.

If he can humiliate you before God and man, your marriage will be a living hell for you and your unborn pikins.

No hakuna matata will save you.

Worry will eventually kill you if blows don't.

Ladies be in control of your own narrative!

Have a life before you become a wife.

Weakness is never and will never be attractive.

It'll only attract misogynistic patriarch's not patriots.

Those men aren't coming to save you.

They are coming to use you.

They know you are weak.

They are weak too, probably weaker..so they need you to fuel their strength.

Make them feel strong.

After madam in the office has shouted at them.

After a man, much younger has sent them on errands.

After they have answered ''Yes Sir, No sir,'' to a boy young enough to be their grand son.

After prostrating and answering ''Please ma, I'm sorry ma,'' to aunty younger than their daughter.

They will come back home and you will be their revenge.

They will use you and keep using you and keep using you.

They need to feel strong every damn day.

And since outside they are weak.

They need to come home and feed on you,

Your fear is their fuel.

They won't let you go.

You must stay so they can thrive.

Until you die!

Then like a mosquito, they will fly away to the next victim.

The one who thinks by being weak and afraid of rat and cockroach, she is appealing and sexy to the man that will run and use slippers to kill the cockroach.

Should we tell her?



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