People pleasing is toxic!
Don't be responsible for others insecurities!
Especially a man!
Don't expand your capacity for loving to accommodate someone's toxicity!
A man that feels he has the right to choose who your friends are, and how many you should have, is an insecure piece of misogynist prick!
A woman that gives him such right isn't a victim, but an accomplice. Partner in crime.
Do not pity such women, they deserve such men!
Living your life based on some other persons expectations are another form of slavery.
Men, don't kill yourself trying to get her what she can't afford... If she can't afford it but expects you to because you have a penis, she is as useless as a beautiful car without an engine.
People will always be biased and always come with an agenda.
If you must rely on someone, rely only on data, not people!
Data is objective, people will always be subjective.
Numbers don't lie, people do!
1 + 1 will always be two
But one good turn will never always deserve another!
Your personality should be customized by you only, not the aspirations of others!
Understand the value of your emotions and place it above others.
Be the type of person you would want to meet.
Let the world adjust to who you are, not the other way round!
Authenticity is Premium...
Be original and run the race against your own self.
Re-evaluate where you are in life, and re-examine your choices.
Exercise your power and play your position. Even in the most basic of all places... Like the Bedroom. Exert your authority there too, women!
Don't just be the boss in the kitchen... It's an illusion!
The kitchen is not a place of power, the boardroom and bedroom is!
The kitchen is a place of service and survival...don't be deceived into ruling there...you are simply serving and surviving!
If you can't rule the boardroom yet, rule the bedroom at least!
Be ontop once in a while, initiate the grand positions, don't be an employee even in bed...be the C.E.O too and stay ontop!
Don't serve everywhere, office, relationship, kitchen, bedroom...
Don't be a servant, be a partner!
If he can't see you as a partner, quit the relationship!
A partner won't expect you to do all the work, cook and wash, clean and sweep.
He understands it's a partnership, so he joins in because he has to, not because he feels like.
Be happy with who you are, you don't need people to like you.
Look at the now infamous blogger!
Living a lie and faking success just to please and appeal.
Until you realize that other people's opinion has no effect on your future, You would continually live life on a leash.
Be selfish!
Exhibit Calculated selfishness.
It gives you control over your life.
Prioritize your own happiness and growth!
Be firm and considerate in your selfishness without being vindictive.
Be your own number one care taker, and take back control of your life.
Only those who have found self-satisfaction through calculated selfishness, can be generous.
Why...?
Because it is only when you have achieved physical and emotional success, that you can now spread out and be generous without feeling depressed.
Don't compromise your wants and needs because you want to maintain a positive and generous image.
Learn to say NO, NO and NO!!!!!
Don't sacrifice your own time to meet others needs.
Quit worrying about being viewed in a negative light.
By Constantly helping others to appear good, you are ignoring the fact that you rely on the opinion of others to value your self-worth.
Don't be a dog that needs permission to eat and sometimes even bark before taking a bite.
Don't give them the power to guilt trip you into helping them.
Stick to your guns!
Only give your time up when you get something significant in return.
Defend yourself, your needs and aspirations.
Even if you end up looking bad at the end.
It's better you look bad and feel good.
Than look good and feel bad.
The greatest war you will ever fight is self-war.
It is the most common mental barrier in social situations, next to perceived fear.
It affects how you decide to speak, think, act and be judged.
Whereas, they occur in your head.
They are just anxiety driven situations you allow to exist in your mind.
Maintain your Cool and say NO to family and friends.
Without being pleased with your existence, you can't win in life!
Self-love and calculated selfishness are the allies you need to win!
Even if things don't go according to plan, you are in control of how you react.
Keep saying NO and don't try to be Mr Nice guy or girl...
Until you have arrived.
Calculate your selfishness and ensure you always score the highest.
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