Authorpreneur's Corner

The higher you aspire, the fewer women who
inspires!

Thankfully the narrative has changed and the domestic corridors are now so narrow, women are finding it hard to walk through.

Because the more information and education the women acquires, the larger the number of men forced to retire from the cult of misogyny.

We are evolving so fast.

Yet our ideas of gender is still as old as slavery and racism.

We are still not yet fit and physical enough to bear the weight of gender expectations!

Most of our ideologies are products of a society that have brainwashed us.

We connect with a story that fits into certain expectations of what the society spits.

We know intellectually what is right

Yet Ignore emotionally

So we don't appear weak or different

Culture and tradition is so tailored to feed our bloated ego...

We rather take sides with the norm because it feels safe and comfortable

Than conform to the ideology that masculinity is broken and twisted.

An overrated baby constantly over fed

Wealth does not hang at the tip of the manhood

Yet women are programmed by default to aspire to marriage

Because manhood is supposedly a synonym for success and ambition.

And women, are the reward for success!

Such nonsense narrative must stop if we must have a progressive society

We do a great disservice to manhood itself

We stifle the humanity in manhood!

Our definition of masculinity is starved and cracked

We define men as inevitably hard

We teach boys that it's a taboo to fear

So they fear fear

Whereas nature teaches girls to endure fear till they can confront it.

Fear is good, it keeps you alert and sharp.

So manhood is taught to mask his true personality.

And because he is constantly on edge, he reacts more than he acts.

We create a more dangerous world with such forced responsibility!

It's time to unlearn so many things we were taught in school.

Like how the head prefect must be a boy and his assistant a girl.

The music teacher must be female.

The fitness/physical education teacher, must be a man even though he is fat, bald, old and out of shape.

Then the C.R.K teacher, must be female.

Last but not least, the home economics/food and nutrition teacher, must always be a woman.

Yet the best chefs in the world are men, to say the least.

In the words of Chimamanda Adiche, "cooking isn't installed in the vagina."

I say..."Let he who is hungry find the kitchen!"

At a very young age, I left Nigeria behind mentally and psychologically.

Asides corruption, ethnic differences and inferiority complex, I knew gender expectations was also a big cancer and a system of oppression.

For me, culture isn't about strangulation of a gender or tribe, but it is about preservation and continuity of a people, gender or race that is constantly evolving

Anything else, is a gross disservice and cancer.

And cancer must be killed.

Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne
Authorpreneur
www.ofunneceo.blogspot.com