Solomon's Lair!

You can't judge me solely because of my relationship and attitude with you because who I am to you is part of me and not all of me.

So you see you can't judge me but I can judge you and I will judge you because you stayed and decided to stick it out with me.

Despite my crazy attitude, irrespective of my personality and regardless of my weakness and flaws, you stayed despite it all so who are you to judge me when you knew about my insecurities and stayed put, you knew I get upset easily yet you stayed, I might be selfish but you knew along the line that I was and yet you stayed, so don't wake up one morning and judge me for being this way because I will judge you for waiting until now to complain when you knew about it all along.

Too far?

Well, I knew who I was when you walked up to me and I showed you I was and you swore you loved every bit of me, I never hid who I was from you, I was open from the beginning so you were warned yet you chose to stay and remain and now you want to judge me.

I knew I was crazy, difficult, mean at times, and probably temperamental, but I told you about all these and you promised you loved me despite it all because beneath all this, I am loving, kind, sweet, understanding and generous to a fault.

I am not the complete asshole you label me to be, I am only human with mood swings and bad days. You ain't a saint either, you are indecisive, manipulative, hard to please and above all, a cheat but yet I stayed and I'm not complaining because I love you and I know beneath it all you love me and you are kindhearted and sweet to a fault.

So don't Judge me because of my relationship or attitude to you because you don't have a right to else I will judge you because the second you start judging me, you have given me the right to judge you too.

How I relate to you is different from how I relate to the next person, therefore my attitude with you isn't a sum total of my personality.

Because you cheat on me doesn't make you a cheat in life.

Also, just because I nag or scream at you when you piss me off doesn't mean I am that way with everybody because I wouldn't nag or throw stuffs at my colleagues at work or scream at my boss but I will do so with you because of my relationship with you and not because I am made that way.

For that reason, I might be kind, funny and sweet to you for years and then one day I might become a monster because of something you did and then you are shocked at my reaction because you have never seen that part of me, not because I was hiding it but because you have never acted in a way towards me that brought out that part of me.

What this means is, our relationship with people is determined not only by our personality but also who they are and who they are to us.

This two factors and our personality I believe make up the physical and psychological and biological make up of who we are and how we are to each and everyone.

So don't judge me, only I have the right to judge because I know me and I know you know me so don't question me to me because you want me to change to you, No!

I  am me and if you don't like me anymore, that's the door!

Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne

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