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Peep Before You Date



A lot of people go into a relationship already damaged for life.

Then they meet people with fatherly/motherly complex or Messiahic complex.

The damage started years old when they were little.

Usually sexual abuse

Or emotional and psychological ones.

Check, negligence is usually somewhere at the core.

You can't cure that history with 1, 2 or even 3 years of love and loyalty to them.

Check who you are dating or peep before you pitch.

Look before you leap.

Peep before you date.

Don't date a damaged good you aren't professionally or pyschologically prepared to fix.

Some people need therapy not relationship.

No matter how much love you show them, they are scarred and marred, love won't fix such.

Prayer and fasting won't either.

They need help, professional help.

Therapy will.

Sadly, this is Nigeria.

The only therapy we know is in Jesus name.

Amen.



Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne

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