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Own yourself... Stop giving the capital to a Man



So I heard a story about a woman who was constantly abused by her husband

Eventually he hospitalized her

After 2 weeks she was discharged

The idiot went back home

Some friends advised her to leave the man

So she went to her pastor's wife instead, in her subconscious she knew what she would tell her to do

So the pastor's wife advised her to fast and pray and save her marriage because of the kids

She went to her married friends, in her subconscious mind she knew what they would say

So they encouraged her fear and told her to have faith, that las las everything will be alright.

Think about the children they said, las las you will be fine

After a month, the husband pushed her from the balcony and she fell to her death.

Las las she died and the kids were alright with the new wife the husband married after a year.

One day the eldest daughter was asked by a friend if she feels her dad ought to take responsibility for her mum's demise...

The daughter, 14 at the time looked at the friend and said..."why on earth would I feel that way...my mum killed herself, she's the only one to be blamed for her stupidity.
I witnessed her being beaten several times and I remember my aunt and godmother advising and even promising her money to leave my dad, but she refused, using us as an excuse to hide from the fact that she was lazy and too afraid to live independent of my father and pursue her own dreams.
I hate two of them but I hate her much more."

Women don't realize that little things like depending on a man from your youth for everything like transport fare before you visit and leave

Depending and demanding for money for monthly subscription and recharge cards

Depending on a man to take you out before you can go out, and settle the bills all the fucking time

Depending on a man to have a social life

Depending on a man for your whole identity only objectifies you

Such life robs you of a life of ambition and drive.

Women has stopped looking good for themselves

But walk around with a price tag on their backs

Unknowingly, these price tags becomes a bulls eye eventually

You no longer own yourself because you have given the capital to a man

All these contributes to making a woman empty without a man

An uncompleted project that is never finished without a man's input

Dead to any real ambition outside the shades of Male chauvinism

Suddenly and unknowingly women have become the biggest advocates of Androcentrism.

They champion this cause when their lust for materialism is much bigger than any dreams and projects that would serve them better than Brazilian hair and coldstone.

A rich man has become the ambition of some women

Then when you get married to a monster, you are too weak and clueless to do anything about the abuse

You endure and use the easiest explanation... My children

A brave and strong woman knows she needs to leave an abusive marriage more because of the so called children

A courageous woman knows not to give birth and produce more offspring in an abusive marriage

A weak and wicked woman would keep bringing more children in an abusive marriage

At some point you are no more a victim but a Queen in the game of marital throes

If he slaps you, slap him back if you are strong enough, or run

Run for your life

If he slaps you once, and you do nothing, he will slap you again

Mind you, doing nothing is still doing something but something very wrong

Anyone that advises you to turn the other cheek or play submission because he is a man, is an enemy of your progress

They will be sit in the front row of your funeral

Don't tolerate an abusive relationship, you are not a goat

Aspire to be more than a victim of circumstance

Don't create more children in the midst of an abusive relationship

You are only creating and raising more monsters and adding to the number of psycho's in Nigeria

Nigeria is bad enough with problematic men already

Ritualists, Yahoo boys, kidnappers, armed robbers, Boko haram, Fulani herds men, touts, agberos, SARS, policemen, APC and PDP, Buhari...all these are men, men, men..we don't need more monsters with penis

The ones we have are a handful already

If you can't do it for yourself, goddammit do it for your children...even the ones unborn.

Las las we will all die so why hurry.

Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne
Authorpreneur
www.ofunneceo.blogspot.com

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